The Comparison Game


Do you play the comparison game? You know, that game where you examine your life in relation to others’ lives? Often we unrealistically compare our lives to those who we feel have achieved far more than we have and end up feeling bad about ourselves because, in our mind, we lost the comparison game…

I’ve been guilty of this over the past few days. For a while now I have truly been content in my season of singleness. I would see my friends get in relationships, get engaged, get married, and all that good stuff, and I would genuinely be happy for them. However, over these past few days, I haven’t been having the same response. I saw that a few of my friends started dating someone, and, instead of simply rejoicing in their blessings, I started examining my own life and questioning myself. I asked myself, “What am I doing wrong? Why am I still single?”

Asking myself those questions and thinking those thoughts caused me to focus on my singleness instead of keeping my eyes on Christ. Because I lost sight of what was most important, my relationship with Christ, I became discontent with my current season and lost sight of all the great blessings God has given me.

When we compare our lives to others’, we are coveting what they have. We are so focused on what they have and the fact that we do not have what they have, we become unsatisfied with our portion. We will begin to feel that until we get what is equivalent to what they have, we won’t be satisfied. Hebrews 13:5 (NKJV) tells us, “Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you.” In this verse we are told not only to refrain from coveting what others have, but to also be satisfied with our portion. My favorite part of this scripture is where we are reminded that Jesus will never leave us nor forsake us. Jesus is our ultimate portion. Nothing we receive in this life can compare to what we have in Jesus. If all we ever had was Jesus, we would have all we need. All that other stuff, such as relationships, friendships, jobs, etc. are just extra blessings. Jesus is our portion. Let me say that again: Jesus is our portion. Once we fully grasp that all we need is Jesus and we keep that thought at the forefront of our minds, we won’t get caught up in playing the comparison game.

Anytime we feel ourselves comparing our lives to others’ lives, that means we have taken our eyes off of our portion, Jesus, and we have let discontent into our hearts. When that starts to happen, immediately we need to get on our face before Jesus and pour our hearts out to Him. He knows where we are, He knows the desires of our hearts. We also must remember that every season has an end. We will not be in our current season forever; however, Jesus can’t move us to our next season until we have mastered all that we need to prepare us for the next season and we have learned to be content in our current season. If we are miserable in our current season, moving to the next season will not take away that misery. That’s equivalent to putting a band-aid on a wound that needs serious medical attention. A band-aid will not fix it just like moving into a new season will not take away the misery in our hearts. Our hearts need to be changed first.

Remember, keep your mind on Jesus and allow Him to make you whole. Anytime you feel yourself becoming unsatisfied with your current season, submit those feelings to Jesus. Praying for you all!

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