Definition of Koinonia
Vine’s Complete Expository Dictionary: (a) Communion, fellowship, sharing in common. (b) That which is the outcome of fellowship, a contribution
Strong’s Concordance: (a) contributory help, participation, (b) sharing in, communion, (c) spiritual fellowship, a fellowship in the spirit
New American Standard New Testament Greek Lexicon: fellowship, association, community, communion, joint participation, intercourse
To say that building relationships with other Christians is important is an understatement. Fellowshipping with other Christians is critical to the Christian walk. We will not survive living in this world and the many attacks of the enemy if we don’t have close, intimate relationships with other Christians.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (NLT)
Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.
The reason why we need other Christians in our lives is so that they can help us in our time of need and we can do the same for them. There are going to be times when the enemy comes hard against us. We will be bombarded with distractions, unfortunate circumstances will occur in our lives, the enemy will attack our minds with thoughts that are contrary to God’s Word, and we will have moments when we feel weak and feel like giving up. This is why we need to fellowship with other Christians, this is why Koinonia is so crucial.
I don’t know about you, but I have tried to live this Christian life on my own and I was so miserable. I had no one to encourage me in the Lord when I was in the midst of a storm. I had no one to pray with me when I was facing a serious challenge. I had no one to stand in agreement with me for the breakthrough I was trusting God for. I felt isolated and alone. This made me an easy target for the enemy. He began to attack my mind, planting all kinds of negative thoughts. All of that changed when I began to fellowship with other believers.
When I refer to fellowship or koinonia, I am not talking about surface level relationships where you keep people at a certain distance and only let them know so much about you. Being closed off or only sharing the good and not the ugly with your brothers and sisters in Christ will still have you feeling isolated. Now I’m not saying tell any and every person who claims to be a Christian what is going on in your life because that wouldn’t be wise. What I am saying is that you should seek God and ask Him to bring you some close, godly friends that you can build an intimate relationship with like David and Jonathan had (1 Samuel 18-20). This type of friendship is selfless and loving. Jonathan encouraged David, reminded David of the promise God had made to him, protected David, and was heartbroken when David was being chased by Saul.
We need to fellowship with believers who will pour into us when we’re feeling low, who we can feel safe confiding in knowing that they will pray for and with us, who will lovingly correct us when we’re wrong, and who will hurt when we hurt and will rejoice when we rejoice (Romans 12:15). We need those individuals who are constantly pushing us closer to Jesus.
So if you’re someone who is trying to live this life for Jesus on your own, stop it right now. You need to fellowship with other believers. Get involved in one of the ministries at your church, find a small group to join or start one of your own, find a Bible study you can go to weekly. But most importantly, pray and ask God to send the right people into your life.